Comments on: Tears and Time https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137 Words Are My Favorite Toys Sat, 21 Oct 2006 05:28:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Betsy https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-194 Sat, 15 Apr 2006 17:58:00 +0000 https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-194 I wish I could show my own daughter what your daughter is now going through - they sound very much alike, and I already watch kids move away from my kid in second grade 'cause she's just too bossy, domineering, and outspoken. I fear our own chickens will come home to roost soon. And as someone who lived through the end of a marriage, I say that buying him a beer and being his friend means more to him than he can possibly express. It's definitely 'good enough.' I wish I could show my own daughter what your daughter is now going through - they sound very much alike, and I already watch kids move away from my kid in second grade ’cause she’s just too bossy, domineering, and outspoken. I fear our own chickens will come home to roost soon.

And as someone who lived through the end of a marriage, I say that buying him a beer and being his friend means more to him than he can possibly express. It’s definitely ‘good enough.’

]]> by: missy https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-193 Tue, 11 Apr 2006 18:59:00 +0000 https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-193 I can relate as well. I moved from a poor inner city neighborhood to a rich, posh, extremely snobby towne when I was in the 4th grade. I had zero friends for 2 years. I would come home almost everyday and bawl. My best friend was my grandmother. I'd make a friend for a few weeks, and then they'd turn out to be a flake or something. I had 2 friends in the 6th grade and 3 in the 7th. And I still have very few friends today. I have very high standards and most people just don't stand up to them. But, that is a choice that I have made, and your daughter is making it too, weather she understands or not. I've gotten better over the years, but I can be just as bad at times. She'll grow up and observe how she can treat people to get along with others, and she'll make those few friends. But she'll probly remain a loner and probly become a half hermit. I *still* perfer to stay at home rather than go out. I do all my shopping at once just so I don't have to deal with people for too long. So, anticipate the next couple of years being difficult, but she'll be better for it in the end :) Missy I can relate as well. I moved from a poor inner city neighborhood to a rich, posh, extremely snobby towne when I was in the 4th grade. I had zero friends for 2 years. I would come home almost everyday and bawl. My best friend was my grandmother. I’d make a friend for a few weeks, and then they’d turn out to be a flake or something.

I had 2 friends in the 6th grade and 3 in the 7th. And I still have very few friends today. I have very high standards and most people just don’t stand up to them. But, that is a choice that I have made, and your daughter is making it too, weather she understands or not. I’ve gotten better over the years, but I can be just as bad at times.

She’ll grow up and observe how she can treat people to get along with others, and she’ll make those few friends. But she’ll probly remain a loner and probly become a half hermit. I *still* perfer to stay at home rather than go out. I do all my shopping at once just so I don’t have to deal with people for too long.

So, anticipate the next couple of years being difficult, but she’ll be better for it in the end :)

Missy

]]> by: Stef https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-192 Fri, 07 Apr 2006 23:42:00 +0000 https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-192 Well, you know who I am and the kind of life I lead. I was very much like your daughter and now I am a theatre director. Definitely a control freak. It can be a good thing. But probably not until she is older. Sorry its painful for you. I don't know what you are going through as a parent, but I was like her and I'm doing just ok! The constant love from my parents was enough for me, I guess. keep up the good work, dad! Well, you know who I am and the kind of life I lead. I was very much like your daughter and now I am a theatre director. Definitely a control freak. It can be a good thing. But probably not until she is older.

Sorry its painful for you. I don’t know what you are going through as a parent, but I was like her and I’m doing just ok! The constant love from my parents was enough for me, I guess. keep up the good work, dad!

]]> by: Phil https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-191 Fri, 07 Apr 2006 21:42:00 +0000 https://pagentsprogress.com/?p=137#comment-191 Hi, got here via CRo. Our son (now 24) was much the same way. He had to do <I>everything</I> his own way. It got worse in high school, but the plus side, as your own experience suggests, is that the friends he made (he called them "the few, the proud" at the time) were terrific. He's still very much his own person, but I finally really enjoy being around him. But it was excruciating watching him grow up. Good luck! Hi, got here via CRo. Our son (now 24) was much the same way. He had to do everything his own way. It got worse in high school, but the plus side, as your own experience suggests, is that the friends he made (he called them “the few, the proud” at the time) were terrific.

He’s still very much his own person, but I finally really enjoy being around him. But it was excruciating watching him grow up.

Good luck!

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